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Reading About Spoiled Stops My Splurge – The End of the Line for Me at SMU Basketball Games

RonLieberPictureReading Ron Lieber‘s best-seller entitled The opposite of spoiled:  Raising kids who are grounded, generous, and smart about money (Harper Business, 2015) is quite an eye-Opposite of Spoiled Book Coveropener.  He is a personal finance columnist for the New York Times.  When I present its synopsis on Friday morning at the Park City Club, I am sure many parents will feel as I do – we should have read this book many years ago, even before we had children!

There are many important points in the book, and you need to attend the First Friday Book Synopsis this week to hear about them.  However, one key element surfaces in several different ways, and that is the distinction between “wants” and “needs.”

So, here I am at a deadline I face.  I must pay for the right to renew my SMU men’s basketball tickets today, or I will lose my season ticket seat.  Note that this is not the fee for the ticket.  It is the fee to pay for the right to have the seat to pay for the ticket.  There are no tickets included.

It has been a terrific two seasons for me with this seat at the renovated Moody Coliseum on the SMU campus.  These two seasons were filled with excitement, but both ending in disappointment.  Last year, the team did not receive a bid to the NCAA tournament.  This year, it exited in a first-round loss to UCLA on a controversial goal-tending call.  The competition in the new American Athletic Conference was outstanding, including visits from Louisville last year, and the defending NCAA champion Connecticut Huskies this year, as well as last.  And, I watched every road game on television this year, including national broadcasts at Gonzaga, Michigan, and Connecticut.

I never went to SMU.  My brother went there, and he was in the Mustang band.  But, I listened to SMU men’s basketball games on the radio before I was a teenager.  I remember heroics from Charles Beasley and Denny Holman, among others.  I was a faculty member at TCU in the mid-’80’s, but I followed Coach Dave Bliss and his # 2 ranked Mustangs much more, listening to games called by Brad Sham and Ira Terrell, who was a standout at SMU, and a colleague with me at 7UP.  The star of that team was John Koncak, and they had a runaway train type player in Carl Wright.  I remember going to a home game when they defeated Louisville, coached by Denny Crum.  That season, they beat North Carolina on the road, and lost to North Carolina State in overtime, and were later eliminated in the NCAA tournament.  The last two years with stars such as Nic Moore and Markus Kennedy, have been joys to watch as they developed and dominated the opposition.

Success on the court begets success at the gate.  For many years, I would go to Moody to see SMU play, but only against top-ranked opponents, such as Kansas.  Most of the fans were not for SMU, Larry Brown Pictureand even then, crowds of only about 1,600 were in attendance.  I remember going to Coach Larry Brown‘s first game – about 5,100 showed up mostly to watch him coach, as well as chant his name toward the end of the game.  The first few games in the 2013-14 season were close to my home in Garland at the Culwell Center, while the school waited on the completion of the renovations at Moody.  When I walked in to the new-look coliseum for the first time, I could tell it was going to be magic.  It was bright, intimate, and loud.  The arena had a new floor, new scoreboards, and new seats, including suites.  The games sold out, and all the tickets for the entire season were gone. The games were truly “escapes” for me from the everyday routines I faced.

SMUBasketballCourtPictureI bought mine before all that happened.  I had one seat behind the SMU bench at the corner of the court, with a great view of everything, including the SMU dancers.  A view from my KarlPatrickDownsPictureseat is to the left.  I sat directly behind an alumnus, Patrick Downs.  We provided everyone around us “expert” commentary.  I have a picture of us to the right.  He was really funny.


So, back to the book by Ron Lieber.  When things are this tight, and expenses outrank income, you make different choices.  Oh, I could find a way to pay for this seat.  It’s not that I couldn’t find the money.  But, after reading this book, what message does that send to my child, who is about to start college?  Is this something that I need, or just want?  How can I get by without going to these games?  Before I finished this book, this would have been a hard choice.  After reading it, there is no choice at all.

I will just figure it out.  I won’t be renewing this seat.  There are other way more important things to spend my money on.

And, I am sure I will get by.  This is a want – not a need.  These two years added to the great memories of being a fan there.  I don’t have to miss the games, but watching on television is a poor substitute for going in person.  My friend, Rich Phillips, calls the games on 770 AM with former Mavericks broadcaster Allen Stone.  They are a great team.

I can tell my child, “if I can do it, you can do it.”  This is the right thing to do.




King’s Speech was Great – But Not the Greatest!

I am frequently asked what I think was the greatest speech of all time.  I receive these questions since I coach professional presenters in the marketplace, as well as teach business presentations as part of the MBA program in the College of Business at the University of Dallas.  I think that many people like to benchmark features of their own presentations against famous speeches that they are familiar with.

Since we recently passed the 50th anniversary of the great “I Have a Dream” speech by the Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr., you have likely seen several editorials about the context, the speaker, and the speech.  I will not repeat any of these here as they are readily available for you.  There is no question in my mind that it is one of the greatest of all time, but it is not THE greatest.

That honor goes to the Reverend Jesse Jackson, who at the Democratic National Convention in 1988, gave the most inclusive presentation I have ever seen.  That evening, he put it all together.  There is no single presentation that I have seen which embodies all of the elements of successful speechmaking this well.  No matter what you wish to critique – projection, tone, eye contact, posture, gestures, language, verbal and vocal variety, storytelling, and on, and on, and on….this speech is a model.  I am especially impressed when I see how he touches all elements of his audience – young and old, white and black, rich and poor, able and disabled, male and female, and any other demographic classification that you want to examine.  I especially encourage you to watch Part 7 by clicking here.  He would be nominated for the presidency of the United States the next evening.  Had he been elected, I think he would have been powerful with foreign leaders, but would have had great difficulty passing legislation through his own bodies of congress.

Two other items about this speech stand out to me.  First, he has energy.  Even 75 minutes from the beginning, Jackson has the same enthusiasm he started with.  Second, he puts elements from the African-American pulpit into a political speech very successfully.  As you watch Part 7, note features such as repetition, parallelism, cadence, etc., which you would see any Sunday in this type of church.

So, for what it is worth, here is my list of the top five American speeches of all time, with links to a YouTube version of the speech where available:

1.  Rev. Jesse Jackson – 1988 Democratic National Convention

2.  President Ronald Reagan – Challenger Explosion Speech – January 28, 1986 – in just 4:40, he settles down the country, gives hope to children who watched the broadcast, praises NASA, and restores faith in the United States space program.

3.  Robert F. Kennedy Announces Death of Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. – April 4, 1968 – en route to a political campaign stop in Indianapolis, RFK receives word of the King assassination, and speaks from the heart in an attempt to unify the country which could experience significant polarization; he holds an envelope with scribbled notes that he barely refers to.

4.  Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. – “I Have a Dream” – August 28, 1963 – an electrifying, sincere, and emotional presentation filled with striking metaphors and allegories that marks a transition in civil rights

5.  Jim Valvano – ESPY “Don’t Ever Give Up” – March 3, 1993 – filled with terminal cancer, the famous NC State basketball coach stirs the crowd with hope, passion, and humor

You may ask where are these American speeches?  Yes,  they are great, and likely in a “top 20,” but….

JFK inaugural address – January 20, 1961 – upbeat and enthusiastic, but disorganized, and one famous line does not make an entire speech famous

Abraham Lincoln Gettysburg Address – November 19, 1863 – we all memorized it, but our effort is why we probably think it is great

Richard Nixon “Checkers” Speech – September 23, 1952 – the first of many defiant and denial attempts by an elusive liar

Barbara Jordan addresses Democratic National Convention  –  July 12, 1976 – a remarkable address by a woman of color who left us way too soon, but she was the star, not the speech

What do you think?  Do you have other favorites?  Let’s talk about it really soon!