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Listen To My Podcast as Interviewed by Brett Cowell

I am pleased to be the guest for Brett Cowell, the CEO and Founder of Total LifeBrettCowellpicture Complete, on a recent podcast.

On the podcast, I share contemporary thoughts about organizational change, leadership, teamwork, and non-profit causes, such as domestic violence.  We covered quite a few topics in a very short amount of time!  I hope you find it inspiring and interesting.

You can hear the podcast at this link: https://soundcloud.com/totallifecomplete/ep5-dr-karl-krayer

You will be able to access additional items about the podcast in the very near future from this blog.

You can read about Brett and his organization at:






Insights from Eric Barker’s “Barking Up The Wrong Tree”


Eric Barker PictureOn July 7, at the First Friday Book Synopsis at the Park City Club in Dallas, I will present the essence of Eric Barkers best-seller, Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong (Harper One, 2017).

BarkingUpWrongTreeCoverAs a preview for my synopsis, here are a few key quotes from the book that will interest you:

“If you want to do well in school and you’re passionate about math, you need to stop working on it to make sure you get an A in history too. This generalist approach doesn’t lead to expertise. Yet eventually we almost all go on to careers in which one skill is highly rewarded and other skills aren’t that important.”

“But as any mathematician knows, averages can be deceptive. Andrew Robinson, CEO of famed advertising agency BBDO, once said, “When your head is in a refrigerator and your feet on a burner, the average temperature is okay. I am always cautious about averages.”
“This leads us to the strengths of being less than confident. Confidence makes it very hard for us to learn and improve. When we think we know all the answers, we stop looking for them. Marshall Goldsmith says, “Although our self-confident delusions can help us achieve, they can make it difficult for us to change.”
“Research shows that you don’t actually need to know more to be seen as a leader. Merely by speaking first and speaking often—very extroverted behavior—people come to be seen as El Jefe.” 
“The hard-charging Silicon Valley entrepreneur has become a respected, admired icon in the modern age. Do these descriptors match the stereotype? A ball of energy. Little need for sleep. A risk taker. Doesn’t suffer fools gladly. Confident and charismatic, bordering on hubristic. Boundlessly ambitious. Driven and restless. Absolutely. They’re also the traits associated with a clinical condition called hypomania. Johns Hopkins psychologist John Gartner has done work showing that’s not a coincidence. Full-blown mania renders people unable to function in normal society. But hypomania produces a relentless, euphoric, impulsive machine that explodes toward its goals while staying connected (even if only loosely) with reality.”
“Anyone who knows baseball knows Ted Williams. He played professionally from 1939 to 1960 and is one of the undisputed greatest hitters of all time, right up there with Babe Ruth. But whether you’re familiar with him or not, I have news for you: Ted Williams never played baseball. Nope, he never did. The problem there is the verb: Williams wasn’t playing. To him, hitting a baseball wasn’t a game. He always took it very, very seriously. In a 1988 interview he said as a child he literally wished on a falling star that he would become the greatest hitter to ever live. But he didn’t sit around and wait for the dream to come true. His obsessive, perfectionist work ethic would bring him more success than any descending celestial body would. Williams said, “I . . . insist that regardless of physical assets, I would never have gained a headline for hitting if I [had not] kept everlastingly at it and thought of nothing else the year round . . . I only lived for my next time at bat.” Ten thousand hours to achieve expertise? Williams probably did that a few times over. He was obsessed. After school, he’d go to a local field and practice hitting until nine P.M., only stopping because that’s when they turned the lights out. Then he’d go home and practice in the backyard until his parents made him go to bed. He’d get to school early so he could fit in more swings before classes started. He’d bring his bat to class. He picked courses that had less homework, not because he was lazy but so he’d have more time for hitting. “

Storytelling in the Speaker’s Toolkit in Our Refresher Program


SpeechClassRefresherPhotoR1June2017Storytelling is a major part of a speaker’s toolkit, and that is what the participants in The Speech Class Refresher program learned yesterday at Resource One Credit Union.  You can see the participants below, along with myself and Randy Mayeux, from Creative Communication Network.


There are several reasons that stories are so important for speakers to develop and include in every presentation:

  1. They are memorable.   You may long forget who said it, when, what for, or anything else, but you never forget the story itself.
  2. They are editable.  You can make a story as short or long as you wish, by including or excluding details.
  3. They are conversational.  You don’t need notes to tell a story.  In most cases, you are the only person who knows the story!  Just talk.  Tell it like you would to a friend.

These are the stories we used yesterday, each between 90 seconds and 3 minutes.

  1.  “The best time I ever had….”
  2. “The time I was most surprised…”
  3. “My most embarrassing moment….”
  4. “Something I wish I could do over is…”

All the participants did well, and we heard some great stories!

Do you have a “signature” story?  Do you use it when you speak?  If not, you are omitting one of the most powerful tools available to you.   The great news is that you already have it!  Just call it up and use it.  You will do yourself and your audience a great favor.

Delivery Skills in Our Public Speaking Programs

You might call this an old-fashioned teaser, but I actually hope it whets your appetite and curiosity for some of our public speaking training. 

In addition to the intensive, private coaching we offer for specific individual presentations, we have two skill-based programs that focus on public speaking.  We have the 1-day program entitled The Speech Class Refresher, and the 2-day program that focuses on micro-skills, entitled Speak Up!  Speak Out!  Say it Well!  We also have an hour-long presentation that describes best practices in delivery, but does not contain any skill development, “Ten Tips for Terrific Talks.”

We teach these inside companies and organizations, and also, typically have a public offering for each several times a year.

These are some of the delivery skills that we include in these programs:

Stories – these are wonderful tools to increase your extemporaneous delivery – tell a “case study” with elements such as when, where, who, what, reactions, and even monologue and dialogue.  Try to put a story into each speech.  Nothing is more memorable to an audience.

Planting – put equal weight on both legs, shoulder width apart, with your knees slightly bent.  From this balanced and comfortable position, you will not rock or sway.  Move all you want to, but when you “arrive,” replant.

Eye contact – divide the room into four quadrants, and look at one person in a quadrant for a single idea.  Look directly at that people in your audience – not over or under them.  Look them directly in the eye.  When you finish, look at someone else in another quadrant.  Do not go left to right across the room, making a “sprinkler effect” or a “lighthouse sweep.”  Try not to “flutter” between two people – look at one, and then across the room, to someone else.

Gestures – these should be spontaneous and natural, never planned.  Put your arms at your side, not in your pockets or locked behind or in front of you.  Your body will tell you when to gesture.  If nothing else, you can enumerate (count – “my second point is…”).  Wait until you participate in Randy Mayeux‘s Velcro exercise to improve your gestures.

Podium  –  avoid speaking behind a podium or stand; instead, speak behind a table, where you can put your note cards down, and move around.

Conversational Delivery – work on what you want to say, rather than how.  The focus is on ideas, and not on exact, pre-planned words.  In this delivery style, your speech is organized, planned, and practiced, but does not rely upon any exact prepared wording that you want to use.  Instead, the words you use are spontaneous and conversational.  The speaker refers to key words on note cards or slides, and simply talks with the audience.  This is the most popular delivery style today, because it is very efficient to prepare and practice. 

For more information about our three offerings, please send a request to:  .



Book Us Now For Your Holiday Meeting, Luncheon, or Dinner

It is not too early to think about hiring us to deliver a speech or presentation for your 2017 Holiday meeting, luncheon, or dinner.  We give informative, entertaining, and upbeat presentations that your group is certain to enjoy, at very affordable prices.  You will find us very easy to work with, and we can cater our presentations to meet your time constraints and audience focus.  We are now accepting bookings for that busy season of the year.

We have spoken to many different industry groups including realtors, health care, banking, construction, engineering, quality, assisted living, government, hotel and restaurant, among others.  Our experience speaks for itself, with more than 1,000 presentations each year to businesses, associations, and non-profit organizations.

Don’t get left out.  Get us on your calendar while you are thinking about it.  For availability, pricing, and other information, contact Karl Krayer at .


Karl J. Krayer, Ph.D.  – “Build on Your Best” HolidaySpeakingKarlRed

In this fast-paced and highly entertaining presentation, Karl will show you how to get the most from human capital and relationships in organizations.



Randy Mayeux “Building Esprit deCorps in a World of Esprit deMe” HolidaySpeakingRandyBrown

Your audience will learn new and dynamic ways to leverage teamwork and collaborative approaches to achieve objectives at work, by transforming individual responsibilities into shared ones.


HolidaySpeakingCarmenOrangeCarmen Coreas “The War Off Drugs”

In this practical and ground-breaking presentation, Carmen will show you the dangers of unwarranted pill-popping and energy drinks, and help your audience discover healthier alternatives that will work to make a positive impact in their lives.


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Domestic Violence Statistics Shared at CCN Conference

Last October, on Purple Shirt Day, Creative Communication Network DVB&WPhotosponsored a Domestic Violence conference benefiting Hope’s Door and the New Beginning Center in Garland, Texas.

The conference was entitled “The State of Affairs in Domestic Violence,” and featured five expert speakers.  You can see the flier and other information on our Facebook page here.  Note – clicking on the flier image on the left side of the screen will enlarge the entire page, so you can see the programs and speakers we hosted:


We are strongly considering hosting a similar conference this fall.  I welcome any input or comments you wish to make about that.

Last year, in my Welcoming and Introductory remarks, I shared some of the then-current statistics that were published by the U.S. Department of Justice.  If you were not with us that day, I thought you might be interested in perusing these:


DOMESTIC VIOLENCE STATISTICS – Current as of May 13, 2016

Source:  http://www.statisticbrain.com/domestic-violence-abuse-stats/

U.S. Department of Justice


Domestic Violence Statistics


Percent of women who have experienced domestic violence


Estimated number of domestic violence incidents per year


Victims of Domestic Violence






Women ages 20-24 are at the greatest risk


On average, 3 females and 1 male are murdered by their partner each day


The health costs of domestic violence yearly

$5.8 Billion

Percent of female high school students who reported being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner


Percent of teens who reported threats from their boyfriend or girlfriend to harm them or themselves to avoid a breakup.


Number of children who witness domestic violence annually

6 Million +

Number of women who are stalked by an intimate partner annually


Percent of domestic crimes reported to police


Percent of high school students that will be involved in an abusive relationship

32 %

Percent of teenage girls who say they know someone their age that has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend

40 %

Percent of all murder victims killed by their boyfriends

7 %

Percent of college females that will experience some form of dating violence

19 %

Percent of date rape victims that are young women from 14 to 17 years of age

38 %

Percent of all sexual assaults attributed to date rape

67 %

Percent young women raped who knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance

68 %

Percent of the rapes of young women that occurred in their own home or a friends or relative’s home

60 %

Percent of incidents of domestic violence involving non-married persons

40 %

Number of American women assaulted by men each year


Percent of the victims of domestic violence that are women

95 %

Percent of all emergency room calls attributed to domestic violence

3.5 %

Percent of those that abuse their partner that also physically and/or sexually abuse their children

65 %

Number of women that die each day as a result of abuse


Number of children that die each day as a result of abuse


Percent of all women who sought care in hospital emergency rooms for violence related injuries

37 %

Number of women that are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day


% of teenage girls age 14 to 17 that report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend

40 %

Percent of violent crime experienced by men attributed to violence by an intimate partner

2 %

Family violence costs to the nation in medical expenses, police and court costs, shelters and foster care, sick leave, absenteeism, and non-productivity

$7.5 billion annually